Flaws are funny things!

Flaws are funny things. They are something all of us have but, all of us pretend that we don’t. Sometimes the hardest thing is seeing the good in people who seem so incredibly flawed. You have to see the world from somebody else’s perspective and understand why they do the things that they do; whether you agree with them or not. That really caused me to reflect on myself and think about the way I see the world. It made me realize that I still have a lot of flaws and that’s not a bad thing. It’s just something that I need to be actively aware of and I think it is something everyone should be aware of. So, when I was thinking about the good and bad in other people, I was also thought of the good and bad in myself. I think my biggest flaw is finding the flaws in others too quickly and voicing those flaws a little too loudly. Being able to recognize this is half the battle. Looking at who you are internally is so important. When I was younger I had such a huge ego and that’s something most young people have.   You’re not used to the world and how it works, and 99% of the time you’re wrong and you end up realizing, “wait I actually was wrong.” And when you’re young, you think you have it all figured out and as I’ve gotten older and older, I’ve gotten a lot more comfortable with not knowing anything. I think it’s great to not know anything, to have an open mind, to be able to shift and change your opinions with what you learn. I think being able to take in other people’s views and thought processes and just look at the world through somebody else’s eyes and have that help shape the way you see it, is an amazing thing. I think making decisions for yourself is really important as well but, self-love and self-acceptance is too. Self-reflection is just as important. I think it is something that you continuously struggle with. I’ve really come to terms with the fact that even as I’ve gotten older and have slowly grown out of the “know it all” phase that everybody goes through, I still have a big ego sometimes. I still think I’m the best at certain things or I’ll hear somebody else’s thought process or point of view and think “okay, they are crazy! They don’t know anything!” That is something I’m working on. It is normal to have self-love and self-acceptance and to have a ton of self-pride. I think people sometimes confuse being confident, with being egotistical. We are all born with a blank slate, that’s why seeing the world from childrens’ eyes is so amazing! Nothing is tainted for them and they think everything is so great and so amazing. As you get older you’re beaten down and it is almost as society wants you to be pitiful and feel sorry for yourself and to be down on yourself and anybody who has self-confidence, well, you’re just full of yourself! I think there is a happy balance and I’m definitely still figuring out where that happy balance lies. Being open-minded, realizing your flaws and finding ways to somewhat fix them but, also realizing that it is okay to be flawed, it’s okay to be a work in progress, is something that I think is really important. We can only become better people by realizing what we need to work on. 

Rant: Nicole Arbour “Dear Fat People”

I don’t even know where to begin with this. I know she does it for “satire” or to be “funny.” I get it Nicole Arbour you’re trying to be “funny,” I get it with your “controversial humor.” I do appreciate controversial humor to an extent. I see you with your Jenna Marbles hair going on and you’re trying to make it on Youtube. There are A LOT of girls out there who don’t even have ONE positive role model in their life and TONS of girls who suffer from eating disorders (me being one.) There are girls out there who will watch this video and it will honestly destroy their life. Words aren’t just words, they carry meanings, they can destory people or build them up. Your words can honestly affect sooo many people. There are tons of people who commit suicide because they don’t feel like they are good enough because people like YOU! They think because they aren’t “beautiful” by someone else’s “standard” of beauty that they are inadequate and that life is not worth living because they aren’t “pretty enough” or “skinny enough.” I hate how people who have NEVER been overweight think they know what it is like. You’ve never faced the daily struggles…YOU HAVE NO FUCKING IDEA! You don’t understand their health history, you are not their doctor. Their body is not up for discussion PERIOD. It’s very obvious you wanted to get attention from this video. I know you want this video to be virally shared. YOU ARE A BULLY! You have such a HUGE platform to change people lives and yet you chose it for negativity. You chose to use it to potentially destroy someone’s life. You can still be funny without being A FUCKING BULLY. What also pisses me off is the fact that YOU think, whoever is obese that watches this video will be moved to start losing weight. I’m sorry but to be the REASON that someone loses weight, when you are so negative is absolutely disgusting! Also the ‪#‎effyourbeautystandard‬ hashtag is NOT an excuse for people to EAT and be overweight. It was created for body positivity! It’s a community based on loving yourself and being HEALTHY! It saves peoples lives of those who want to commit suicide because they don’t think they are good enough because they aren’t skinny or pretty. They don’t encourage unhealthy eating! I honestly hope you change your mind set because there are two ways you can leave this world, influencing others or being a total fucking bully! YOU ARE HONESTLY SO FUCKING DISGUSTING. To anyone who suffers with confidence and loving yourself, always remember that you’re beautiful for being YOU…not because you’re thin or you have pink fucking hair or because of your makeup. You’re beautiful by the kind word you put out, by the way you make people feel, by the kind things you do for people. Your weight has nothing to do with how beautiful you are!